Are you feeling tired, stressed, or maybe even like giving up? Do you want things to change but are feeling so tired, you don’t know where to start? You may be feeling tired of the way people in our world are treating each other. Or the way people in your house are treating each other. You may be feeling tired and want change but it just gets so overwhelming. Maybe it feels like everyone needs something from you. Or you’re feeling tired of being lonely. You may be feeling tired of health issues. Or just feeling tired of feeling tired! Whatever it is for YOU, consider this:
Change is never REALLY made from the grand and extraordinary decisions [like those] made on New Year’s Eve, but in the routinely repetitive daily life you live. The little moments of life are profoundly important precisely because it is the little moments in which you live that actually form you.Paul David Tripp
If you’ve ever laid awake at night and went through all the ways you messed up that day, take heart! There was only ever One to walk this earth perfectly. So, it’s pretty certain that you can recall times when you’ve lost it with your kids or spouse, or neighbor. Times when you didn’t stop, breathe and pray before speaking. Situations when your feelings of anger and self-righteousness took the place of forgiveness and self-control. You may be thinking, “Well, that was encouraging, Kate. Thanks.” But, wait – There’s more! And it’s going to give you HOPE! Here it is:
The Key to Change
The quality of our lives is NOT set in dramatic moments or decisions but in the 1,000 little daily moments. Please, read that again. Did you read it again?
How many times do you think you’ve lost it with your kids? 10? 100? 1000? No judgment here. My own kids are teens now, so you can guarantee that I have lost it with them 1,000s of times. Praise God that love covers a multitude of sins – 1 Peter 4:8. This means that even if you’ve lost it 1,000s of times with your kids, there are still 1,000s more moments in which you showed grace, mercy, truth, honesty, and character. And THAT is what matters!
It is the character formed in the LITTLE moments that shape how we respond in the BIG moments of life.New Morning Mercies by Paul David Tripp
Does that take the pressure off from feeling tired and thinking you have to do a complete 180, like TODAY? You see, making fantastic “New Year’s Resolutions” isn’t what is going to make the difference in your life. Or in the lives of your kids. What IS going to make the difference is the day-to-day, down in the dirt, doing the same things over and over to show your kids YOUR character in how you make choices and treat others.
- Consider this:
- Are you consistently kind to the person in front of you in the grocery line? Or do you grumble that they’re taking too long?
- Do you typically have patience with the driver who cut you off? Or pitch a fit and call them an idiot?
- Do you demonstrate forgiveness for others when they’ve wronged you? Or do you hold a grudge?
Making decisions to change is a good thing. After all, making and keeping commitments raises serotonin (the natural chemical which regulates anxiety, happiness, and mood) in the brain. THAT is always a good thing. But be encouraged today, and know what you do on the daily matters MORE than any grand decision you can make and keep (or even break!).
Kate Fraiser is a Parent Coach with Connect Point Moms helping you create stronger relational connections with the children in your life. This starts with being aware of your own stuff so you can BE PRESENT with your children in the moment you’re in, and then knowing and using the best ways to communicate with them. For quick and helpful parenting videos, find her on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, or Facebook.